Warning signsIn abusive relationships (dating, co-habiting, marriage, or civil partnerships), when you begin a relationship it is not always obvious whether or not it will become abusive. Your relationship may seem healthy, but there are some warning signs you can look for to help you identify possible abuse.
Here are a few:
• You start seeing less and less of your friends and family.
• You start changing your behaviour, your appearance or your actions
to suit them.
• You give up activities or hobbies you enjoy doing.
• You feel nervous about your partner hearing your conversations with others.
• Sometimes you feel scared about how your partner will react.
• You take the blame for things that you know weren’t your fault.
• You don't express your opinions because your partner will make you
feel stupid or small.
• You feel manipulated when they are kind or give you gifts.
• They are the one to make all the decisions.
• You feel pressured into doing things you don’t want to do.
• You are constantly contacted on your mobile phone.
• You have to justify yourself because your partner is jealous.
• Your partner criticises you a lot and you begin to feel bad about yourself.
• You are made to feel uncomfortable when you and your partner disagree.
If you recognise these warning signs, you can get help and confidential advice from Lighthouse by calling 01473 745 111 any time of the day or night.
Domestic Violence typically follows a pattern whereby the tension builds before the violence/abuse takes place. This usually increases in frequency and becomes more severe over time. It is never too late to make a change and break away from an abusive relationship.